Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT has a private practice in Marin County (Larkspur), CA., working with individuals and couples in-office or via tele-health for those in California.

Lisa is also the creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com with articles and tools in support of emotional health and relationships. A frequent media consultant, she has appeared online in CNN, HuffingtonPost, Shape, Men’s Health and others.

She lives in Mill Valley, California, loves nature, travel and is an avid tennis player.

52 articles published

Stop Feeling Unlovable

Emotional Health MinuteOctober 21, 2025550Views 0Likes 0Comments

Feeling unlovable is a deeply painful emotional experience. It’s a quiet, persistent voice that tells you that you are fundamentally flawed and unworthy of affection, belonging, or love. This feeling can create a profound sense of loneliness, even when you are surrounded by people who care about you. Unlovability is a feeling, not a fact. Your belief…

Bickering is a Red Flag

Relationship MinuteSeptember 18, 2025283Views 0Likes 0Comments

It’s normal for couples to have disagreements, but when small arguments become constant, they can drain intimacy and joy. Many people wonder, what do do if we bicker too much—especially when it seems like every little issue sparks conflict. As much as light bantering coming from a playful place can be a relationship strength, tipping over…

Emotional Safety in a New Relationship

Relationship MinuteJuly 1, 2025265Views 0Likes 0Comments

Emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy, trust, and long-term connection in any new relationship. When you feel safe emotionally, you’re more likely to relax, open up, and connect authentically. Creating emotional safety involves consistency, openness, non-judgment, and mutual respect from the start. It means being emotionally present, listening with care, and responding with empathy.…

Get a handle on your stress

Emotional Health MinuteApril 10, 2025524Views 0Likes 0Comments

A evidenced by the discussions of friends, family, clients, my community and larger conversations around the country and world, our collective stress baseline is high and rising. It’s time for a reminder about how to stay as grounded as possible when things feel hard and out of your control. The rock stars to accomplish this are…

Make couples therapy work for you

Relationship MinuteMarch 4, 2025304Views 0Likes 0Comments

If you and your partner are struggling with no progress being made on your own, seeing a couples therapist is a great way to get back on track. It can be hard to see through your own forest. If you're in contemplation of diving in, here are some important considerations to ponder to have the…

Don’t let politics blow up your relationships over the holidays.

Relationship MinuteNovember 28, 2024867Views 0Likes 0Comments

While many are anticipating the holidays to be warm, connecting and fun-filled, there are others who are dreading the political elephant in the room where divergent opinions are a reality. The concerns about conflict and potential relationship impact will be legitimate as some families gather. Here are some ways to help protect the peace. Have a…

Author page: Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT

Stop Feeling Unlovable

Bickering is a Red Flag

Emotional Safety in a New Relationship

Get a handle on your stress

Make couples therapy work for you

Don’t let politics blow up your relationships over the holidays.

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