Getting enough sleep is more important than you might think. It not only resets the nervous system but consolidates learnings from that day and fosters physical health in heart, lungs and immune system. According to Linda Graham, MFT, "Researchers have found that 97.5% of the population need between 7 and 9 hours of sleep a…
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
It can be easier said than done to eliminate these damaging habits in your relationship. Many of us have learned problematic communication patterns in our families of origin or struggle with issues around trust in relationships that leading to knee-jerk, unhelpful responses. If you make attempts to follow Dr. Gottman's suggestions but still find yourself…
There has been a spike in stressful news being covered by the media. Whether it's ISIS, Ebola or Enterovirus-D68, there are worrisome issues at hand in our world and own country. This would be enough to be concerning for anyone but if you have a tendency for generalized anxiety about "bad things happening," you might…
If you've messed up, the relationship is worth saving and your partner is open to allowing for positive change, you're off to a good start. But you have some work to do.
To begin with, you and your partner should hone your communication skills to allow for the kind of dialogue that will be necessary to…
If you are like most people, you’d prefer happiness over unhappiness. Being human comes with challenges, failures, adversity as well as joy, peace and life satisfaction. Consider yourself a work in progress when it comes to your emotional health.
So if your intentions are good but something still isn’t working, consider the possibility you might be…
There are many ways people do relationships. At the end of the day, I subscribe to the notion "whatever works." But I find that a distress point for many couples in my practice is relationship balance. Relationship balance is the "you, me and we" parts of the relationship. Imagine two overlapping circles with the overlapping…