When overwhelmed with worry it's easy to feel like it permeates your very being. It's hard to separate the feeling from your very core. That's because it can be powerful, especially if the narrative that runs beneath you (your story) is negative:
"Something bad is going to happen."
"They won't like me."
"If I don't keep control, I will…
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Along with my therapy practice and this site, MarinTherapyAndCounseling.com, I have maintained another emotional and relationship health resources site with articles by me and other therapy and counseling related professionals for over 10 years. LoveAndLifeToolbox.com I invite you to look around in the areas that interest you. Here are a few options: Marriage and Relationship Tools…
Considering your relationship, think about the countless choice points there are in a single day. We all have those moments where we can choose to act in one way or another, choose to say one thing vs another...
What are you doing with your choice points? Do they support or degrade your relationship? Or perhaps they…
Because we all look at the world through our own pair of unique eyes, it's not uncommon to have totally different experiences and perceptions of life. This is a result of many things but particularly the totality of our prior experiences. We learn and assign meaning to things as we go. The meaning might serve…
We all have an inner voice that chimes in, chirps, directs and processes experiences. An often times damaging aspect of our inner voice are the automatic thoughts (thought+assessment+emotional reaction) that can race by without us being completely aware of them (or their consequences). The problem is, for those who struggle with excessive worry or poor…
Consider how much the presence of absence of trust can impact your relationship? It's a critical element of what I often refer to as "emotional safety," that which ideally
allows for a safe haven in each other. John Gottman, PhD recently completed another in a long line of books about the research behind what makes or…