Many people mistakenly believe that if they just shove their feelings into a box, they will go away and never bother them again. As logical this may seem on the surface, it's simply not true. Burying feelings may feel productive but they are still there and have a way of revealing themselves. They can lead…
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
No matter what the other does or says, you each are solely responsible for your responses. This may seem counter-intuitive to you, particularly if your mate behaves in outrageous ways but couples who successfully manage their own emotional reactivity and can keep physiologically regulated (and not "rage" for example) can more effectively work through disagreements. …
If you often are unsure of how you feel because you are simply overwhelmed or disconnected from your feelings? The very first step to help get you towards the moment (mindfulness) and help you learn to tune into your feelings is to notice how you feel right now. As simple as this sounds, many have…
Are you and your partner spending time with positive, upbeat people? Research has shown that emotions are contagious!
Those you choose to surround yourself with have more impact on your relationship than you might think. Do an inventory of all of your friends, couples you spend time with and other people you come into contact with. …
Doing a good deed, especially in the moment and out of the blue, can boost your happiness.
When you're feeling down, you're likely more in your head than out of it. You may not even be particularly tuned in to others and the world around you at all. You're simply bummed out and likely ruminating about…
Is it possible you miss subtle but important messages from your partner? You might be overlooking indicators of distress such as unhappiness in the other.
Yes, it's important for us all to take responsibility for how we feel and communicate these feelings to each other. But sometimes there are obstacles to this, whether it be fear…