With Covid optimism in the air with signs of positive change, many couples are finally addressing the issues that have gone subterranean during this pandemic. Some relationships have benefitted from the additional time together but many have been pulled tight, especially if there were unresolved issues between the couple before. Anxiety can strain an already…
Your relationship vulnerabilities have a tendency to be a reflection of prior experiences that were wired into your brain as either strengths or vulnerabilities. These wounds can be healed and your brain rewired (great news) but the first step is to be clear about what your issues are. Ideally, they have an idea of the…
There are many facets of healthy relationships, elements of strong foundation ideally resting underneath a couple. Trust, security, emotional safety and good communication are just a few.
But where does relationship success truly begin?
Don't even bother looking towards your partner. Hold up a mirror to yourself because that's where relationship success starts.
In order to have the…
If you are frustrated because your marriage or relationship isn't "making" you happy you might want to re-think that. There is a vast difference between being happy with your relationship rather than seeking happiness from your relationship. What is important is a sense of safety and trust. This is a condition that's important for you…
It can be easier said than done to eliminate these damaging habits in your relationship. Many of us have learned problematic communication patterns in our families of origin or struggle with issues around trust in relationships that leading to knee-jerk, unhelpful responses. If you make attempts to follow Dr. Gottman's suggestions but still find yourself…
If you've messed up, the relationship is worth saving and your partner is open to allowing for positive change, you're off to a good start. But you have some work to do.
To begin with, you and your partner should hone your communication skills to allow for the kind of dialogue that will be necessary to…