There are a number of signs that can point to a need to "get right" with yourself so you can be right in a relationship; a sense of desperation in relationship-seeking, your mood dependent on partner's mood, a tendency to pick partners who need to be "rescued," intimacy problems or a general lack of trust…
No matter what the other does or says, you each are solely responsible for your responses. This may seem counter-intuitive to you, particularly if your mate behaves in outrageous ways but couples who successfully manage their own emotional reactivity and can keep physiologically regulated (and not "rage" for example) can more effectively work through disagreements. …
Are you and your partner spending time with positive, upbeat people? Research has shown that emotions are contagious!
Those you choose to surround yourself with have more impact on your relationship than you might think. Do an inventory of all of your friends, couples you spend time with and other people you come into contact with. …
Is it possible you miss subtle but important messages from your partner? You might be overlooking indicators of distress such as unhappiness in the other.
Yes, it's important for us all to take responsibility for how we feel and communicate these feelings to each other. But sometimes there are obstacles to this, whether it be fear…
Contemplate for a moment the following "Relationship Minute:" In your interactions with others, do people feel safe coming towards you - or do they move away or stay a safe distance? It's important for all of us to periodically hold a mirror up to ourselves to do a little personal inventory around how we are…
One of the most important things you can do to improve the quality and connection of your relationship is to be familiar with the others wounds.