We all have an inner voice that chimes in, chirps, directs and processes experiences. An often times damaging aspect of our inner voice are the automatic thoughts (thought+assessment+emotional reaction) that can race by without us being completely aware of them (or their consequences). The problem is, for those who struggle with excessive worry or poor…
Vulnerability is scary and for many, it's easier to go it alone than reach out to others. In fact, the ability to build a support team and use it, is a hallmark of resilience. Your "team" could be one person or it could be a slew. In my work, I've experienced men and women (it's…
Oxytocin is an antidote to cortisol (hormone of stress). If you have a tendency to easily get emotionally dysregulated (really angry, really sad, really tense...) - or if you know someone else who does - this is for you.
Neuroscience has shown us that oxytocin puts the brakes on cortisol. In my Marin couples therapy work,…
Why is there such a range in the way people react to events and situations? How is that one person can take things as they come while the other gets emotionally dysregulated and goes into a tailspin? Much in the way we respond comes from earlier experiences but if you break it all down, it's…
Many people mistakenly believe that if they just shove their feelings into a box, they will go away and never bother them again. As logical this may seem on the surface, it's simply not true. Burying feelings may feel productive but they are still there and have a way of revealing themselves. They can lead…
If you often are unsure of how you feel because you are simply overwhelmed or disconnected from your feelings? The very first step to help get you towards the moment (mindfulness) and help you learn to tune into your feelings is to notice how you feel right now. As simple as this sounds, many have…