If you've messed up, the relationship is worth saving and your partner is open to allowing for positive change, you're off to a good start. But you have some work to do.
To begin with, you and your partner should hone your communication skills to allow for the kind of dialogue that will be necessary to…
If you are like most people, you’d prefer happiness over unhappiness. Being human comes with challenges, failures, adversity as well as joy, peace and life satisfaction. Consider yourself a work in progress when it comes to your emotional health.
So if your intentions are good but something still isn’t working, consider the possibility you might be…
There are many ways people do relationships. At the end of the day, I subscribe to the notion "whatever works." But I find that a distress point for many couples in my practice is relationship balance. Relationship balance is the "you, me and we" parts of the relationship. Imagine two overlapping circles with the overlapping…
When overwhelmed with worry it's easy to feel like it permeates your very being. It's hard to separate the feeling from your very core. That's because it can be powerful, especially if the narrative that runs beneath you (your story) is negative:
"Something bad is going to happen."
"They won't like me."
"If I don't keep control, I will…
We all have an inner voice that chimes in, chirps, directs and processes experiences. An often times damaging aspect of our inner voice are the automatic thoughts (thought+assessment+emotional reaction) that can race by without us being completely aware of them (or their consequences). The problem is, for those who struggle with excessive worry or poor…
Consider how much the presence of absence of trust can impact your relationship? It's a critical element of what I often refer to as "emotional safety," that which ideally
allows for a safe haven in each other. John Gottman, PhD recently completed another in a long line of books about the research behind what makes or…